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🌸Mom's Journals, entry #10

🌸 Reflections from My Mom’s Journals – Entry #10




  • Choose to live in Joy.

  • Choose to live in Peace.

  • Realize and accept that life is not fair.

  • Learn from the past.  Plan for the future.  

  • Don’t sweat the small stuff.  It’s all small stuff.  -Richard Carlson

“Realize and accept that life is not fair. Learn from the past and plan for the future.”

How often have I found myself thinking, "This just isn’t fair!" But what is fair, really? If we lived a perfectly charmed—or Instagram-filtered—life, would that feel more fair? Sometimes, I wonder if we’re confusing fairness with entitlement.

We work so hard for a specific goal, and when it doesn’t materialize, we feel wronged. Why? Is it because we’ve seen others succeed with seemingly little effort? If they can do it, why not me?

Take Suzie and John, for example. Maybe they have the picture-perfect marriage. And maybe it feels unfair that you don’t. But what if Suzie and John spent years dating before marriage? What if they committed to counseling, healed from past wounds, and made intentional, healthy choices? Maybe their success isn’t just luck—it’s the result of a series of wise decisions.

Here’s what I’ve realized: I made some seriously bad choices in my relationships. (Emphasis on seriously bad.) Hence—two failed marriages. Life isn’t fair, sure, but I have to own the choices that made it feel even more unfair. For a long time, I wallowed in self-pity. I took those choices, wrapped them up in a sad little bow, and carried them around like a badge that said, “Look how unfair life has been to me!”

Through reflection, I’ve come to understand that I was confusing fair with entitled. Are we entitled to a dream life with no consequences for our choices? Absolutely not.

But here's where hope returns:
 As my mom said, “Learn from the past and plan for the future.”

We can accept the lesson, wear the T-shirt, take the grade, and move forward. That brings me to another one of her gems:

“Choose to live in Joy. Choose to live in Peace.”

So now the decision is ours. Do we keep carrying around our little bundle of regrets—or do we shift our mindset, take back our power, and choose joy and peace instead?


 💋✨ Until next time... keep loving & living your best life!💋✨

🌸Wishing you Love, Light & Sparkles!

🌸 Carrie


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